I want to be able to like kiss goodbye and like hold hands and stuff without being awkward about it

and see he does too but he never knows when i would be comfortable with it or anything so he just doesn't really bother...

And I am totalyl fine with doing it myself to show him I'm okay with it...but I don't want to be akward

how do I open up and be more comfortable about it? And stop being so shy?

like
TODAY WAS sooo EMBARASSING.
like he was sitting on the table in this one classroom, and he stuck out his arms which now I realize meant that he wanted me to just like help him off the table....but I...because I'm a fucking idiot...went in to like hug huim and it was so weird and I didn't even realize it until we were in our next cclass and I was like...oh my god...I'm so stupid...

I just want to stop worrying about wether we should be like hugging or kissing or whatever and not be awkward about it

Post edited at 9:01 pm on Aug. 28, 2008 by shine brighter15

Your boyfriend is also probably afraid of making you uncomfortable (wait, you already told us that :)). So what do you want to know? You seem fine to me. All I'd say is to be more confident and maybe even make a move here and there, you know?

See its harder because this is the second time we've officially been dating and the third time we've kind of been together. Like last time we werent dating we were just together and it was a lot easier for me to be close and stuff.

But yeah we kind of talked about it. Gah thats what I love about him. When we were on the phone a while ago he waslike are you okay with like, pda andacting like that at school and stuff? and I was like to an extent yeah...

I think it'll be okay, I apologize sort of jokingly, sort of seriously for being an akward person haha. So its out in the open.

man I just really don't wnat to fuck our relationship up this time. I kind of took it for granted the first time and I still regret because it was so much simpler for us then. But we have another chance now and I'm trying so hard...its really not like me, I'm worrying so much about it its weird. Its really different than before.

Be completely comfortable in the fact that this is YOUR relationship. You said yes to this guy or he said yes to you or whatever, either way you both are assumed to be comfortable with eachother. So play nice. Enjoy yourself. Your watching a movie with him and something scary is about to happen, grab him and scare the shit out of him. You know, just have fun or whatever.

Never feel rushed to do anything. Be completely open with him about things itching you. If he doesn't know when to hold your hand or whatever, just tell him your fine with him holding your hand whenever he wants.

And about the hugging on the desk thing, you probably were looking out for such signals because you do feel so pressured right now to "act" like a couple. Once you stop looking for specific things and just, you know, live normally as you are you won't have to worry about that shit. If you were confused and grabbed his arm and said "whats this about" and he said "I wanted a hug douchebag" then you just smile and hug him. It's when you're afraid and jumpy that the awkward things happen. The reaction that I said to that situation, while still blatantly confused, would have been alot less awkward if it was the way you said it was.

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