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I don't think I can ever be in a relationship.
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Replies: 5Last Post July 20 7:38pm by Anonymous
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I am a girl, btw.  Nearly 17, if it matters.

There is a girl I like. I don't see how she could ever like me back, because I would never like someone who looked like me... I am not a happy person. I have clinical depression and I am recovering from an eating disorder and self injury. I am not a good person to become close to, because I can't promise to be alive for any extended period of time.

I've been trying to just forget about it. My last relationship was just so bad. But she... The girl is bisexual. She is pretty flirty... So deep in my mind, maybe that is why I can't just get over it?

But I have my sexual side effects from medications. Basically, if I ever got in a relationship with anyone, if I don't ditch my anti depressants... I don't know how in to it I could ever be.

On the off chance that she does like me and comes on to me or whatever... I don't know. I mean... If anyone ever likes me... Ever, and I like her back, what do I do? How could I ever comit to someone when I know she can do so much better?

I just... Is it cruel to waste someones time with the likes of me? What would you do?

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3:23 pm on July 20, 2008
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There are such things as relationships without sex. And will you be depressed for the rest of your life? You're still young.

Also, don't put yourself down. If she likes you, there's a reason behind it.  

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Certainly you could be in a relationship at some point. Right now might not be the best time for a relationship, though. It's important to have stability, and your current situation probably wouldn't provide stability for either of you. In the future, when you are further along in your recovery, I think you could certainly be in a relationship if you wanted.

Also, just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you NEED to be sexual. Or, at least, that often. If you plan to be on anti-depressants for awhile, could you switch to another anti-depressant that doesn't have those side effects?

And if she likes you? Just go with what feels right. We can always say, "Oh, my partner could do better than me!" But if she likes you for you, she won't want to do 'better than' you.

I don't think it would be a waste of time if you wanted to be with her, and I don't think you'd be wasting her time. As long as your honest with her about everything, then you should pursue it when you're ready and stable.

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just because u are depressed doesn't mean anything i'm a manic depressive with a multiple personality disorder & i have a boyfriend and tons of friends even though i'm bi.

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Quote: from Malignant Melanoma at 11:28 pm on July 20, 2008

There are such things as relationships without sex. And will you be depressed for the rest of your life? You're still young.

Also, don't put yourself down. If she likes you, there's a reason behind it.  


I could not have said it better.

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Quote: from Malignant Melanoma at 3:28 pm on July 20, 2008

There are such things as relationships without sex. And will you be depressed for the rest of your life? You're still young.

Also, don't put yourself down. If she likes you, there's a reason behind it.


True, but sometimes kissing doesn't do much for me, either.  It totally depends, but I figure if getting into kissing is hard...

Quote: from Disposition at 3:36 pm on July 20, 2008


If you plan to be on anti-depressants for awhile, could you switch to another anti-depressant that doesn't have those side effects?

The only option I know has pretty much no side affects is Wellbutrin... Which gives seizures to anyone who has ever had an eating disorder.  I don't know what else I can take that would mix with my insomnia meds.  I may be stuck on lexapro forever.  The only other option is prozac, which won't change much.


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