Talk about complicated. I will try to keep this simple. Guy 1: I met him first, I thought he was super cute, intelligent and extremely nice. He sings in the band.
Guy 2: I lost my virginity to him, I'm really into him and he is gorgeous and extremely intelligent. He plays guitar.
Both of these guys used to be in the same band.
I have never done anything with Guy 1, we only talk through AIM once in awhile, text each other randomly and hang out on even more rare occasions. Guy 1 is always asking me to go out with him and tells me how much he likes me.
Guy 2 and I have a long history, he told me he really liked me and we started talking but he then said he didn't want a relationship. We lost our virginity to each other but I feel as if he is at a point in his life where he doesnt really know what he wants, he is experimenting and confused and stressed a lot.
However...Guy 2 asked me not to talk to Guy 1 because he is, "an idiot".
Basically....Guy 2 he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me but he doesn't want me to talk to other guys?
As I had mentioned...they are in the same band. Guy 2 (the one I had sex with), once told me how he had been really into this girl about a year ago and after introducing her to his band she started dating his bass player....LESS THAN A WEEK LATER...and he didn't want the same thing to happen again with another girl he liked....He told me the girl he was into tried to kiss him once and he pulled away because it was his initial reaction....and now he regrets it....and this girl he says completely ignores him.
We have sex sometimes...Guy 2 and I.....I don't know how he really feels about me honestly...For a fact I know he USED to like me a lot....he might still feel like that, but we don't really talk about it anymore...I don't know if I should keep holding on in hopes that he will change or pull away completely and see if the old saying is true..."absence makes the heart grow fonder"
And what about Guy 1? I don't know if I should even give him a chance? I think he's cute, he's super nice, I enjoy spending time with him....but as GAY AS THIS SOUNDS....part of me doesn't want to hurt Guy 2 the same exact way he was hurt before.
I hate that I'm considerate.... 
-------
Rainforest Action Network
921 users online 
186621 members 
You have 1 new message.
Patron
Interesting. It seems like you could destroy the friendship the two have with your decision. 
