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how do I get over it?
his past relationships.(long post)
Replies: 9Last Post July 18 5:16pm by candygirl9031
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Ok, I recently met this wonderful guy who is the most amazing person I've ever dated(not that I've really dated anybody".

The problem is not him, but myself. He makes every effort to make me feel loved and secure, but I still have my doubts. We are both starting to fall in love with eachother, but since he's my first love.. I'm scared. Part of me wants to fall in love..

I have an extremely bad fear of rejection, like it goes beyond what I would call normal measures. I'm so scared I'll be cheated on or rejected, even though this is not the type of guy to do that. Also, he's had 3 other girlfriends in his life(he's 20) and I KNOW he's had sex before. He was cheated on and dumped by his last GF the day he proposed to her. He said it really hurt him, but it happened a year ago and he says he's over it.

How do I find a way to get over my insecurities? Has anyone else ever went through this? I really want this relationship to work. >.<


4:38 pm on July 18, 2008
stargazer1

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Theres a thing called trust. Thats all I got for ya:)

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adiddy92

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commitment issues

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i love this girl

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VIPMeezy


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who cares? i think you should just go for it, and forget all your fears and doubts.. and if it doesnt work out in the end, at least you have the experience to learn from.. instead of nothing.

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gman101


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don't think 2 hard about it time will tell if you guys are ment 2 b and if your not then it was a life lesson.

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HuffleHaire


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I'm going through that right now. It always happens that I'll like a guy until he shows an interest in me, and then I lose interest. It's like I don't respect them, because they like me.

Ridiculous, huh? But like that old saying goes, you gotta love yourself if you can ever love someone else.

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xwhylovewhyhatex


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Everyone goes through rejection in their life, you just have to deal with it, getting rejected a few times strengthens you and you'll get used to it, so really don't worry, if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. Life moves on.

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etsu11


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I had the same problem. I voiced my concerns to my boyfriend and after many heart felt talks about it I can finally say that he would never go back to any of them. Truth is he wont go back to any of them most likely. So, all I can say is just trust him and talk to him if you still can't get over it. It helped me.

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Trust issues are a biggy.  I have them.  I didn't date anyone for 3 years because I just couldn't open up about things to people.  But that's not really the exact same thing that you are dealing with, similar though.

Have you talked with him about these issues you are having?  If you haven't, you really should.  A re-assurance from him would make a world of difference.  Remember, he knows the pain of being cheated on, and if he is a good person, then you know he wouldn't want you to have the same pain that he felt.  Make sure you tell him it isn't because of your trust issues with him as a person, but of your own insecurities.

Relationships are a beautiful thing.  Get to know each other, and when you love the other person then you will know it.  Try not to think about him cheating on you, when you know he wouldn't.  Have that conversation, it will make you feel better.

Inbox is open if you want to talk.

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candygirl9031


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yeah i have that problem too. when my boyfriend first told me he loved my i didnt believe and i didnt let myself love him back because i was afraid he was going to leave. but then i slowly started to believe and completely let go and truly love him

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