1) Try joining an activity club or a sports team. I know it sounds so pathetic, but it can really help. If you're made to do something which needs interaction, chances are you'll learn how to interact with other people a lot better. It might be challenging, and at times you might feel unbelievably alone, but stick with it. Sports teams survive on friendship and mutual support, which in turn truly help to build up people's self-esteem.

2) Get a job. I'm not sure how old you are, but jobs are another great way of building up self-esteem. No matter how small your job is, it will give you that sense of responsibility - that people are relying on you, and when you get something right, or manage to really help a customer, that feeling of job satisfaction can be immense. The more people tell you you're doing well, the more you'll feel like you ARE a good, confident person.

Those are both great ways to build your self esteem, great ways. But after that, you obviously need that inner courage to ask that girl out. Are you guys friends already? The simplest way to get to ask her out is to just socialise with her more. Make sure you can hang out with her in a group, and once you guys get on, try and socialise with her alone. Maybe take her to the movies, and get her on her own. If she enjoys herself, just take things as they come. If you want to kiss her, kiss her. If not, don't. You never know how you're going to feel until you're in that situation.

I hope that helped you out. Good luck!

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♥ hey there, delilah, what's it like in new york city?

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Beating self-esteem issues is never easy, but you CAN do it, I promise. It will take a huge amount of dedication, and you'll need to be strong, but you can do it. As you're not very out-going, that's the first thing you need to build on.

1) Try joining an activity club or a sports team. I know it sounds so pathetic, but it can really help. If you're made to do something which needs interaction, chances are you'll learn how to interact with other people a lot better. It might be challenging, and at times you might feel unbelievably alone, but stick with it. Sports teams survive on friendship and mutual support, which in turn truly help to build up people's self-esteem.

2) Get a job. I'm not sure how old you are, but jobs are another great way of building up self-esteem. No matter how small your job is, it will give you that sense of responsibility - that people are relying on you, and when you get something right, or manage to really help a customer, that feeling of job satisfaction can be immense. The more people tell you you're doing well, the more you'll feel like you ARE a good, confident person.

Those are both great ways to build your self esteem, great ways. But after that, you obviously need that inner courage to ask that girl out. Are you guys friends already? The simplest way to get to ask her out is to just socialise with her more. Make sure you can hang out with her in a group, and once you guys get on, try and socialise with her alone. Maybe take her to the movies, and get her on her own. If she enjoys herself, just take things as they come. If you want to kiss her, kiss her. If not, don't. You never know how you're going to feel until you're in that situation.

I hope that helped you out. Good luck!

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I think it's just a case of getting up the courage to ask her out. As I said, try and do more and more things with her as friends, and if a close bond develops/you notice any chemistry. then try and follow your instincts and work from there.

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Are you sure? Maybe you need to arrange a time in advance for you guys to hang out. If you want this to work, you're gonna have to put work into it. Sitting back and thinking it won't happen will never get you anywhere.

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You seem to be very negative about this. If you really want to talk to her, then you need to find a time to meet her, else this will never work.

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Well, it's true. If you want to get someone to like you, you have to put effort into it. Arrange a date over the summer to hang out or something.

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Is there a friend you guys have in common? You could always ask for her e-mail/MSN address, and add her and talk from there. That might be easier than talking to her face to face about anything.

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May i ask what you are working on all the time, if you do not have a job? Is it possibly something you can multi-task on? Also, may i ask how you became kind of Friends with her in the first place? i guess one of the things to remember about asking people out is this really: if you look at all the problems with it, but then still ask them out, there is a chance that you will get a yes, but if you never ask them out, then it is a guarenteed no, becasue they will never know in the first place. Right now, by saying nothing you are guarenteed a no. The only way to have a chance at yes is to talk to her. Its not easy, but you have to try and push yourself to talk to her. Overtime, as you are able to do that, then you will feel more comfortable with her. Also, remember while it may seem horrible, the worst that can happen is you will get a no, and if you do, it just means that you need to try and find someone else for you. i guess though, like i said, if she has become your life, then you have to talk to her, even if it doesnt seem likely. i really hope that things work out well for you.

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