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I'd love some HELP with this...
Complications in love
Replies: 26Last Post July 10 6:51pm by sabakunorebecca
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Okay, so it's like this.

I met this guy on the internet.

ALL RIGHT ALREADY, DON'T GET FREAKED OUT!

I KNOW he's the real deal, because a) I have good intuition, b) he definitely doesn't act like the perfect guy sex offenders pretend to be, c) I've seen in on webcam and yes, he does look his age, and d) I've talked to him on the phone. Every night, in fact.

And I'm crazy for him. WAY crazy.

Only of course, the problems.

Problem one: Hello! I met him on the internet! Are my parents going to approve of that? NO!

Problem two: He just-so-happens to be 19. I'm 14. Five years age difference. *I* don't care, but I can certainly think of people who would.

Problem three: He doesn't live where I do. He lives in the same state but a different city.

Problem four: We haven't met face-to-face yet, no matter how much we both want to.

SO BASICALLY.

I want to know HOW me being with him could be possible!

PLEASE actually *ask* questions before assuming things about him and I will be able to verify things.

And yes, I know for a fact he likes me back. Although he doesn't want to admit it.

Not to mention he has this huge habit of being an overall confusing person and joking about serious things and saying things then contradicting them or taking them back.

I could probably deal with this EXCEPT for the fact that he always is like this whenever he tells me that he likes or loves me.  

Example:

Him: Becca... I love you
Me: ...
Him: Haha but no I was just kidding.
Me: >.<

This happens all the time...

And then of course

Him: I love you
Me: Is that a joke?
Him: I don't know. Is it?
Me: I don't know. Is it?
Him: You tell me. What do YOU think.
Me: I don't know. You're so confusing. I can never tell if you mean something or not. It bothers me.
Him: I am a confusing person. People tell me that all the time. I don't know, you figure it out. If you don't know, I don't know.
Me: -sigh-
Him: -laughs randomly-
Me: o.o
Him: Okay how about this. I *think* I love you.
Me: ...okay. ^^

Etc...

Yeah, its an infuriating thing. Specially since we both like each other but aren't officially going out or anything and he's not into cyberdating and UGH I don't know what to do.

If you can't solve the whole relationship problem thingy, try to think up some ideas of how I can meet up with him secretly, keeping in mind that my mother is a) evil and b) cunning.

Much love and thanks!

<3 XOXO

Sabaku no Rebecca


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desireelovesyouu


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Make up a total lie..Say you went to school with him or he went to school with another of your friends.

I did that for some guy..but now i just totally blew him off..He was too desperate.

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Bonolove


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did you hear about the 14 year old girl who just went to go meet a guy she met on the internet. and she ended up being killed? i wouldn't meet anyone i met online...especially someone 5 yrs older than me...

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only in ky


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If he lives in the same state, can't he drive to see you, seeing how he should have his license?

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ENicole


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Hmm, I've got a better idea...leave the sex predator alone and find someone you're on age who doesn't have a "hidden agenda"

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chicwithproblems

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Go for it and just tell ur parents ur going out one night for a while the have him meet u somewhere.....he seems like a really nice guy...so just GO FOR IT

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Kay, sorry, but none of your answers are helping...

Desiree, he looks too old for that, not to mention he lives to far away, and my sister would be able to vouch for him not existing at my school because she goes there also. Also, my mother is an evil mastermind, remember? She would go as far as looking in the yearbook for him. For real.

Bono, I have heard of millions of people like that. Sorry for them, but they died because they were stupid enough not to make sure they actually KNOW the person before meeting with them. I have truckloads of evidence that he's an actual real person who does not rape people.

Only, you've forgotten about my parents.

Thanks,

<3 XOXO

Sabaku no Rebecca


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Enicole, same answer as bono.

Chic, my mom is smarter (and eviller) than that. :(

Thanks,

<3 XOXO

Sabaku no Rebecca


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rozi k


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what? ur parents aren't going to approve!!!! im 14 and my parents made me dump my 17 yr old bf..... over the fone..... it gets better..... she then told me i could never talk to him again. then, she got into contact with our school and made our head teacher make sure we don't "run into each other in skwl"........ to be honest id say w8 it out a few more years until ur old enough for parents oppinion not to matter, then do wtf u want

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Rozi, yes, I know my parents aren't going to approve. That's my problem. Your situation sounds sucky and your parents over controlling, sorry for you about that.

I guess that's the smart thing, waiting, I know. It's just so damn hard. I want to see him SO BAD!!!

Thanks,

<3 XOXO

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He's to old for you if he's 19 and you're 14.  That would be statutory rape if you had sex.  I think you can remain friends but don't try to be more than that.

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X Milllie X


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I might have got the wrong idea here, but...

If you really do like him, tell your mum. You might be suprised at how much she understands. Not only is that a good idea because then you wouldn't be lying, but if you do go to visit him, she would know where you were and would feel happier.
If you decide not to tell your mother, make sure you bring a friend with you or something. You can never be too careful.

I hope it works out for you! :)

xxx

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Dragonking: Well yeah, duh. Although I turn 15 in October. I don't think any age really is "too old" if you really love each other.

And god, I have no intention of having sex this young. One can have a relationship without having sex, you know. It's not just friends vs sex. There's such thing as in between!

Thanks,

<3 XOXO

Sabaku no Rebecca


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Millie, thanks so much for your reply but believe me, my mother is not like other mothers. I know that's what every other teenagers say, and they all claim they hate their moms, too. My case is just... different. Our family is a bit dysfunctional. And for the suggestion to bring a friend, I agree that is a smart idea. The question is, where do I put aside my friend when her use has expired? ;D

Thanks,

<3 XOXO

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I know a person can go with out sex.  Maybe he would want it though and things could get complicated and you do have sex.  

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