So here's my question-
Should I just ask what's going on or should I also tell him I'm worried that he can't be without it now and I would like him to cut back?

Any help much appreciated. I don't want to be naggy or annoying. I just love him and am concerned.

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Any fool can make a rule, and any fool will mind it.
Henry David Thoreau

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threaten to break up with him if he won't listen to you about stopping.

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this to the quantity of 7

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I fly like paper, get high like planes

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threaten to break up with him if he won't listen to you about stopping.

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I tried that like six months ago and he just ended up lying about it. :(

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Any fool can make a rule, and any fool will mind it.
Henry David Thoreau

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I was like um, what are you doing? and he just apologized and went outside. When he came back in he said he was sorry and he wouldn't do it again. I really don't mind that he does it but I'm worried that he's dependent on it now.  

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Well it seems he respects you like he should, but from that, what's the real problem?

If it's just him being happy getting high, then you really need to rethink and respect that before a problem does start.

Quote: from rainey at 10:43 am on Nov. 30, 2008

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Quote: from yunasfinalfantasy at 10:41 am on Nov. 30, 2008

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threaten to break up with him if he won't listen to you about stopping.

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I tried that like six months ago and he just ended up lying about it. :(

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Which it should have ended there, because the truth is, that's not love and someone who truely loves you would NEVER try to give you a altamatum.

You have alot of learning to do, you can't change someone to your liking. There's plenty of other suckers out there if you want that.

All you get with that is you being happy while he puts on a show. It's just like all the forced marriages out there(ending in a 95%? divorce rate).

So if that's the only thing bothering you is him getting high, then you should cherish the time you spend with him because that should be the least of your worries.

Here's some things to go over:
1.Is he really smoking alot? a)he must be high everytime he is around you and he must be smoking around you also. If he's only smoking a few bowls aday, that's nothing.
2. Is he still productive? a)Finishing school, going to work, hanging with the g/f, etc.
3. Is he neglecting you because he's high? a)Being mean, smoking instead of giving you time, etc. or is he just high while giving you attention?
4. Think of why you feel this way, is it a legitimate opinion. Is it more then you just being selfish, because there plenty of people who smoke all the time(myself included) and still live life just like anyone else and probably with better quality. Yeah SMOKING is bad, but Marijuana isn't.

Post edited at 9:10 am on Dec. 1, 2008 by Xusk

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threaten to break up with him if he won't listen to you about stopping.

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No. Bad idea. Weed means a lot to people who smoke it. If a girl made me pick between her or the ganja, I'd break up with her, and so would many of my friends.

By all means, try and get the guy to slow down... but be respectful.

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and were good, God would permit us to be pirates."

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Quote: from yunasfinalfantasy at 1:41 pm on Nov. 30, 2008

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threaten to break up with him if he won't listen to you about stopping.

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No. Bad idea. Weed means a lot to people who smoke it. If a girl made me pick between her or the ganja, I'd break up with her, and so would many of my friends.

By all means, try and get the guy to slow down... but be respectful.

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If he doesn't prune you and spoil you with affection and care, don't threaten anything; politely ask and convince him not to smoke, whether it's by suggesting something new or fucking the boy. He'll learn, we're trainable.