My mom and stepdad keep things from me, but they tell me "you don't know what life is, you grew up so privileged, you need to grow up and be mature" and all this shit. Now I know they are only keeping shit from me. I don't understand why my mom feels like I'm not mature enough to deal with it. But when she gets pissed off at my dad or my sisters' dad, she always bitches and tells us all the horrible things they did when we were little.

I'm not mad at her at all, because I have no reason to be, and I'm certainly not disappointed in her or my father, I just wish my mom felt comfortable telling these things to me.
Why am I so different from my sisters? Why does she tell them things, but not me?

Post edited at 4:57 pm on Sep. 4, 2008 by Anonymous

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Are you the youngest?

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Yes, I am. But it shouldn't matter.
My mom knows that my sisters and I are close. The youngest of my older sisters tells me everything. My mom knows that she's told me a lot of things about my past already, like the fact that my dad's friend molested me when I was 2, while he and his wife were babysitting me.
I don't see how it is easier for me to hear it from my sister, who gets extremely pissed off when she's telling me this stuff because my mom refuses to tell me, and I have a right to know, than hearing it from her.
She doesn't think.

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Quote: from cherrys77 at 7:49 pm on Sep. 4, 2008

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Are you the youngest?

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Yes, I am. But it shouldn't matter.
My mom knows that my sisters and I are close. The youngest of my older sisters tells me everything. My mom knows that she's told me a lot of things about my past already, like the fact that my dad's friend molested me when I was 2, while he and his wife were babysitting me.
I don't see how it is easier for me to hear it from my sister, who gets extremely pissed off when she's telling me this stuff because my mom refuses to tell me, and I have a right to know, than hearing it from her.
She doesn't think.

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Have you sat your mom down and talked to her about this?

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All general statements are untrue.

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Quote: from Anonymous at 4:51 pm on Sep. 4, 2008

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Quote: from cherrys77 at 7:49 pm on Sep. 4, 2008

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Are you the youngest?

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 Yes, I am. But it shouldn't matter.  
 My mom knows that my sisters and I are close. The youngest of my older sisters tells me everything. My mom knows that she's told me a lot of things about my past already, like the fact that my dad's friend molested me when I was 2, while he and his wife were babysitting me.  
 I don't see how it is easier for me to hear it from my sister, who gets extremely pissed off when she's telling me this stuff because my mom refuses to tell me, and I have a right to know, than hearing it from her.  
 She doesn't think.

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Have you sat your mom down and talked to her about this?

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Not yet. The only reason I haven't is because my stepdad will feel the need to get involved. He wasn't around for anything that's happened. He doesn't have any right to be involved in it.
I'm not going to get into a fight with her, I just want to know why she doesn't want me to know the truth. All of this partially explains why she goes along with my stepdad every time he says "you have a good life growing up" and all that shit.
I didn't. Everyone else in my family agrees that I didn't. But they know why, and I don't.

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You're the youngest and a dude...
She maybe has a hate-male strategy after her and your Dad splitting.

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I'm a female..

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Quote: from ilovebobthesheep at 7:56 pm on Sep. 4, 2008

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You're the youngest and a dude...  
 She maybe has a hate-male strategy after her and your Dad splitting.

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I'm a female..

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Ah, sorry, for some reason thought you were male.

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Quote: from cherrys77 at 7:53 pm on Sep. 4, 2008

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Quote: from Anonymous at 4:51 pm on Sep. 4, 2008

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Quote: from cherrys77 at 7:49 pm on Sep. 4, 2008

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Are you the youngest?

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  Yes, I am. But it shouldn't matter.
  My mom knows that my sisters and I are close. The youngest of my older sisters tells me everything. My mom knows that she's told me a lot of things about my past already, like the fact that my dad's friend molested me when I was 2, while he and his wife were babysitting me.
  I don't see how it is easier for me to hear it from my sister, who gets extremely pissed off when she's telling me this stuff because my mom refuses to tell me, and I have a right to know, than hearing it from her.
  She doesn't think.

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 Have you sat your mom down and talked to her about this?

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Not yet. The only reason I haven't is because my stepdad will feel the need to get involved. He wasn't around for anything that's happened. He doesn't have any right to be involved in it.
I'm not going to get into a fight with her, I just want to know why she doesn't want me to know the truth. All of this partially explains why she goes along with my stepdad every time he says "you have a good life growing up" and all that shit.
I didn't. Everyone else in my family agrees that I didn't. But they know why, and I don't.
 

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I'm sorry that you didn't.

I think you should maybe try going out to lunch just you and your mom and talking to her. Tell her how you feel. What you think you should do about it. And don't put her on the defensive. Try hard not to accuse her of anything

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All general statements are untrue.

Maybe she thinks you would most likely be the one to be disappointed or something.

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I hope I live to tell the tale.

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Strange that your mom would tell your sisters and not you, even if you are the youngest.

Maybe she thinks you would most likely be the one to be disappointed or something.

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That's a good reason.
I mean, my sisters are the ones that resent her for a lot of things, like making them raise me because she was a single parent for a long time, and she had no other choice but to work two or three jobs at a time.
I never resented her for not being there. I never resented her for anything.
I look up to her, so that makes sense.

Thank you.