But the thing is, I need to be around someone a long time before I develop feelings. Right now, he texts me a lot and asks me to hang out a lot... but I find myself ignoring his texts because I just can't be bothered or don't care. It's a chore to act like I want to see him.

That's a reflection of a deep problem I think I have... beyond dating. I don't like people unless I've known them for a long time. I find it hard to make new friends because it's a chore to go out with them, a chore to chat to them.

Please help me... about what to do with this guy as well as in general. I'm sorry if I sound like a really horrible person for being so cold. I don't want to be this way, but I am. And I don't know exactly why. Can anyone relate?

I make friends by deliberately persisting to see them and chat to them. In other words, I fake it for months before I genuinely look forward to seeing them, or enjoy their company.

But "faking it" in a relationship sounds a lot more pathetic.

I don't know, maybe all of it is pathetic. But it's the only way it works for me. So please help. Again I'm sorry if you think I'm a terrible person and just want to click "back", but I'd really appreciate it if you have something to say.

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give him a shot.. u never know until u try

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But I feel stupid and fake. I mean, if someone posted that they don't like someone who's hitting on them, wouldn't people tell them to stop leading him on?