Before my accident, I didn't have much trouble asking girls out. I had a long-term girlfriend, but she ended up breaking up with me because she 'couldn't handle the stress'.

I consider myself an alright guy. I'm quite outgoing, and party quite often, but I find it much harder to ask a girl out now. I have a lot of girl friends, but not an actual girlfriend. I think more often than not, girls pity me and see the chair, and not me as a person.

I suppose my question is, would you consider dating a guy in a chair? Or would you turn him down, simply because he isn't able-bodied?

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Rickie rocks my world so hard,
that I named my pet hedgehog after her.

I don't know how to explain.

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Like a runaway

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If I had a less active life style than I would have no problem with it.  (That is if I was single)
The way my life is now, I don't think I could.  I would feel bad for leaving him behind on things he couldn't do.

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Well I guess it would depend on the guy, but I do consider myself quite active. I go to the gym regularly, swim, and, well I wouldn't call it running, obviously but I do wheel for long distances for enjoyment. I recently accompanied some mates on a camping trip, and went tramping and abseiling so yeah I think I am quite active, and find ways to do something I want to whenever possible.

Thanks for the replies.

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Rickie rocks my world so hard,
that I named my pet hedgehog after her.

 Look on the bright side, you are positive.

Post edited at 3:16 am on Oct. 3, 2008 by CherryD

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History Lesson:
Me: "Why do we need so many sources?"
Friend: "To go with our french fries?"

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Quote: from Glory at 11:58 pm on Oct. 2, 2008

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If I had a less active life style than I would have no problem with it. (That is if I was single)  
 The way my life is now, I don't think I could. I would feel bad for leaving him behind on things he couldn't do.

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Well I guess it would depend on the guy, but I do consider myself quite active. I go to the gym regularly, swim, and, well I wouldn't call it running, obviously but I do wheel for long distances for enjoyment. I recently accompanied some mates on a camping trip, and went tramping and abseiling so yeah I think I am quite active, and find ways to do something I want to whenever possible.

Thanks for the replies.

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Any guy that I dated would have to be able to do everything that I could.  I'm a firefighter, as well as being an officer in a disaster team.  It wouldn't be possible for someone in a chair to keep up.  Not to mention areas that I go would be completely inacessible.  It's not that I don't think they could do it.  It's that I don't want to feel bad for talking about it, and having to leave them behind.  

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"Put on your big girl panties, and get over it"

People in general are prolly more accepting of it these days, but it can be a lot of responsibility and stress at times having someone who is physically disabled as a significant other, more for some than others, even if that person can wheel themselves fine. It also depends on other factors, besides the chair, are they attractive, good personality, fit, or not fit.... You get the idea.

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I`d like to be an angel to someone, but I think i`m too screwed up now.